Intro:
Do you feel like you were meant to have a kick-ass career as a hairstylist?
Like you got into this industry to make big things happen?
Maybe you’re struggling to build a solid base and want some stability.
Maybe you know social media is important, but it feels like a waste of time because you weren’t seeing any results.
Maybe you’ve already had some amazing success but are craving more.
Maybe you’re ready to truly enjoy the freedom and flexibility this industry has to offer.
Cutting and coloring skills will only get you so far, but to build a life long career as a wealthy stylist, it takes business skills and a serious marketing strategy.
When you’re ready to quit just working in your business and start working on it, join us here where we share real success stories from real stylists.
I’m Britt Seva, social media and marketing strategist just for hair stylists, and this is the Thriving Stylist Podcast.
Britt:
What is up?
And welcome back to the Thriving Stylist Podcast.
I’m your host Britt Seva, and this is going to be a really different episode.
So I’m calling this a woo-woo episode, and I’m tentatively titling it at the moment, how I got realigned.
And it’s just going to be kind of a from the heart and very vulnerable, which is something I’m really trying to lean into this year, but also moving forward.
And for some people, it might be shocking.
For some people, it might make things make sense.
For some people, I’m hoping it’s, I don’t know if inspiring is the right word, but relatable, I think.
And I hope that it gives hope to others who might be in a similar place to where I was for a really long time.
So if you’re looking for like your typical strategic business podcast about like three steps to improve your social media, this one’s not for you.
Maybe give it a skip.
There’s a few hundred others that are great for that.
This one is going to be a little bit more just about myself and my life and my business and my journey and things I am embracing and things I’m letting go and where things really went wrong for me and how I got back on track and made things go right and where I am today.
And yeah, just kind of like an open hearted share.
So let’s give it a go and see how it goes.
So, you know, hindsight is 2020.
And I can see very clearly now the rain is gone.
That from 2021 until the summer of 2024, I’m going to say it’s like a landmark of the summer of 2024 for me.
Oh my gosh, we’ll see if I can do this without crying.
Holy moly.
I was going through a really difficult time.
I was very lost and I did not realize it.
I really didn’t.
Even looking back now, I’m like, there’s nothing I necessarily could have done to see how lost I really was.
I was in therapy during all of that time.
I was surrounded by great people.
It’s not like I was just blind or just oblivious.
It wasn’t that.
It’s just that it was so down deep and I think so complicated that I had really normalized my suffering is how I’m going to explain it.
And I was just lost in life.
I was having a lot of personal life relationship issues.
And when people say that, they’re like, Oh, her marriage.
It wasn’t my marriage.
It’s interesting.
It was like, I was just having all of these dramas.
And I found I found that, like, I would get into arguments with moms at the baseball field and just like really silly, petty gossipy stuff.
And I hadn’t been involved in that for a really long time.
And I don’t like that stuff.
I, you know, some people really like drama and sitting around and talking about other people.
I have never found that to be fun.
And so when I was doing a lot of it, I was like, man, is this just what happens in life at this stage?
It was awful.
But again, I was so in it and everybody else was in it.
So I was like, okay, I guess this is just how this goes.
I was having to work extremely hard for a very lackluster result.
So I worked my ass off from 2021 to 2024.
And that’s coming from somebody who loves to work.
I love to work.
I live to work.
I can’t remember a time where I only worked five days a week.
I’m not wearing the busy badge like a badge of honor.
I’m saying I’m somebody who sits in a movie theater and just counts the moments down until it’s done because sitting and watching a movie for two and a half hours, it feels like time wasted.
Like, what are we doing?
People talk about like binging a Netflix series.
I’m like, can I binge a Netflix series while I brainstorm six new podcasts?
Like, I just I can’t do it.
I don’t know how.
And I was working harder than I’d ever worked before for one third of the result.
It’s just like things were not working.
I was chasing education and masterminds, high impact rooms, taking advice from everybody because it was like I could feel like some I knew something was wrong, like clearly things weren’t feeling good.
Things were feeling terrible.
But I looked around and there was other people I had networked with in the past who seems like they were doing great.
And I just felt like if I could be in the right room with the right people, if I tried a little harder, if I dressed a little different, if I got the right invitation, then it would come together.
I kind of was feeling like I was right on the verge of this up level.
And if I could just get there, then everything would be okay again.
All of that was so wrong.
Lauren from my team, I don’t know if she remembers this conversation, I’ll never forget it.
It was 2023, it was like end of summer 2023.
And we got on a call to talk about whatever.
And towards the end of the call, she was like, are you okay?
And I was like, yeah, I’m fine.
And she was like, no, like really okay.
And I was like, I think so.
She was like, you don’t seem okay.
And I was like, well, you know, thanks for checking in.
I really appreciate it.
Like life is definitely hard, but life is hard for everybody.
Like, who am I to feel any different?
And, you know, we’ll power through.
She’s like, okay, you know, let me know if that changes.
But you seem off.
And it did definitely give me a moment of pause because Lauren has always been, she’s been very open with me always.
And so when she tells me something’s wrong, something’s wrong, there’s just no doubt.
And when I look back at kind of the big things that happened in my life, I very transparently talked about in the spring of 2021, my best friend, when I say my best friend, it’s like so minimizing it.
She was my entire family.
Like I don’t have a mom and a dad and siblings.
I had Caroline.
And so losing her was like losing this deep foundation and just kind of like that piece of my world where it was so always in my corner.
Like I could do no wrong.
You know how you have, when you look at a lot of relationships with like really deep family or really deep friends, you could do the wildest, craziest things.
Like they’d bury the bodies with you.
It was like that.
And that just pulled the rug got pulled out from under me so fast.
A few weeks later, my mother-in-law passed and we were all, I mean, she was the core of our family.
And so 2021, things really felt very fragile.
But by 2022, like life was starting to move forward.
And I wasn’t deeply grieving.
Like I can’t even say that that was a piece of it.
But it definitely, there was this catalyst for things are going sideways from 2021, 2022 into 2023.
Like for some reason, I could not recalibrate.
It was like everything was on the wrong axis.
But I was trying to smile and push forward.
And I just thought life was harder and business was harder and the economy was changing and our market was changing and the industry was changing and the great divide was here.
And this is just how it goes.
So get to 2024.
And I was audited by the IRS.
That was not fun.
Members of my team were, I can’t even use any other word than battling it with me.
It was like, I couldn’t win, they couldn’t win, and not my whole team, but like a select group.
And it was like, what the heck is going on?
We were great and now we’re not okay.
Again, I was saying I was having those interpersonal issues with random people in my personal life, tech blunders like crazy, like projects we thought we could get done in three months took a year and a half.
I mean, it was just nothing was going right.
In 2023, was it 2022 or 2023?
We had to file our first injunction against another business, like legal issues.
I mean, just couldn’t catch a break.
So things were going sideways and didn’t know why.
If you’ll recall, in the summer of 2024, on a whim, I just had this energetic pull to do something I called the Thriving Stylist 60.
It’s episode 343 of the podcast.
If you haven’t listened to it, go back and listen.
And it was inspired by 75 Hard, which is a fitness challenge.
So 75 Hard was created by Andy Frisella.
If you don’t know who he is, he’s a fitness, definitely huge personality.
He actually is a top rated podcast.
You can check out if you want to.
He has, when you say like cult-like following, people really love this man.
And the idea of his 75 Hard challenge is that you’re basically creating healthy habit for two and a half months, 75 days.
And what he said was something like only 1% of people who started can finish it.
And it just proved like how hard it is for people to change their lives.
And I saw it was, I think it was an Instagram post or a TikTok.
And I knew what 75 Hard was.
As I had heard about it for years.
But I saw this post and I was like, oh my gosh, you know what?
I don’t want to do a fitness challenge.
No thanks.
But what if, what if we as an industry tried this?
And it was just like a reset button and it was kind of like something fun to do to get us through the summer and into the fall and let’s do it.
So I just kind of cooked up this little challenge and it was called the Thriving Stylist 60.
And there was six little activities that everyone was supposed to do daily.
So the first was called Connect.
And you were supposed to like 20 Instagram posts and comment on five every single day.
So basically just actually interact on social media.
Then the second thing you had to do was capture.
So capture 60 seconds of your day in micro moments and then share it to your story or feed.
So it was kind of about like actually appreciating all little things that happened during your day and sharing them so other people could see too.
Being a day maker, so any kind of act of kindness.
I’ve done the day baker thing since before my son was born.
So 2012, no, no, no, 2012, 2013, something like that.
Do something kind to somebody else every single day.
A stranger, like go out of your way to be kind.
The Reflect Journal, this ended up being big for me.
So every day you had to write down your peak and your pit.
You had to drink one gallon of water a day, and you had to read 10 pages of a business book a day or listen on audio.
So that’s one of the things that’s different with 75 hard, you actually have to read.
For me, I was like, or just listen to an audio book, whatever works for you.
So I started this thing on an impulsive whim.
I remember messaging my team and it was literally so random.
I was like, hey, I’m doing this random podcast, it’s going to be like an Instagram challenge.
And they were like, okay, go for it.
But there’s no real strategy behind it.
It just felt right.
So I did it.
Little did I know how that would have changed my life.
So my life has done a 180, for lack of a better way to phrase it, since doing that.
I didn’t anticipate for this to make such a dramatic difference in my life.
And trust me when I say I’m not promoting my own challenge.
What I think happened was, I think that, and here’s where it gets woo woo.
Here we go.
I think that that post and that ping of inspiration for me did not happen by accident.
I think it was like a universal slap in the face of like, you got to shake shit up or you’re going to stay in this deep hole.
And you’re continuing to do what you think you’re supposed to do is not working.
So wake up and let’s try something radically different and see where it takes you.
And I look at the person that I was at the start of 2024, and the years prior, honestly, and I was overwhelmed.
I was tired.
I was uninspired.
I was not hopeful for the future.
I was overwhelmed.
I was angry.
Did I say overwhelmed twice?
That’s how overwhelmed I was.
I was angry, scattered, for lack of a better word.
And I’ve never been a naturally organized person, but I mean, this was bad, bad.
I was unhealthy.
I was like dull and not like boring, just like blech, just like I had lost my shine.
That’s how I felt.
I was very short tempered, and I was extremely frustrated, just not good.
And I think the entire Thriving Stylist 60 experience was very huge for me.
The Reflection Journal was massive though, because I started to see these patterns, and the pits in my day were the same thing over and over and over.
And it was like, gosh, are you just blind or ignorant?
Or what is your problem?
Like it became so obvious of how did I not see this before?
Because it was so clear as I was very intentionally reflecting of like, wow, like the blessings I have in my life, and these huge pits that are just ruining all of it.
And my advice in that is, if you are in a place like I was for three years not knowing, that little journaling alone really brought me so much clarity and helped me to make little daily decisions pushing forward.
So, I really reflected on the things that have changed in my life in the last, it’s only been six months.
I’m in such a better place than I was even six months ago.
And I just want to share kind of like what has changed since then, that I think has really made the massive impact for me.
So, looking at relationship changes, we as a business, so you may or may not know this, the formal name of my company, people call it Thrive Our Society, but it’s Flourish Lawn Business Development.
And we have carried like a really large team for quite some time.
So, we started 2024 with, I believe, 16 employees and we now have 10.
So, some people chose to leave and some were invited to leave.
So, it was a combination of things.
What I want to emphasize here is nobody was bad.
There’s no scandal, there’s nothing like, oh my gosh, and this egregious thing happened.
None were right for where the business was.
I don’t know how else to describe it.
Like looking back now, it’s very clear.
But at the time, I don’t think, I know that I didn’t fully realize it.
Like to some people, I was like, they’re great, everything’s great.
And then looking back, it’s like, no, it’s like totally the wrong, totally wrong.
And it must have been so frustrating for them too, because it was like, this cannot be what you want to be doing.
It didn’t even make sense.
And what I realized is I wanted it more for them than they wanted for themselves.
And the reason I share that and the reason I think it’s relatable is some of you are keeping people you love in the building or in your life because you see so much potential and you want so much for them and you want to be by their side and you want to do the damn thing and you want to do it with them.
That’s not up to you, is what I realize.
You know how the whole thing of like, if you love someone, let them go.
If they come back, they were meant to be yours.
Let people freaking go.
If somebody is not happy, trying to jump through fiery hoops to make them happy will not do it.
And trust me, I tried.
I tried throwing money at people.
I tried changing schedules.
I tried changing workloads.
I tried changing, I mean, just everything.
Cadence, communication.
I tried to change everything, and nothing was ever going to be right.
And I didn’t realize that until the people who just were not a good fit were no longer here.
And trying to sustain those relationships was emotionally draining for me, mentally draining for me, financially draining for me.
And I’m sure if you ask them, they’ll say the exact same thing.
It was not good because we were not right for each other, no matter how bad we wanted it.
Have you ever been in a toxic relationship?
Like you break up with somebody and they keep going back to them, and then you break up again, they keep going back, and then maybe they’re the one, maybe it’s just not for me now.
Like maybe they’re for me down the line.
Like it’s totally that because it’s like I really care for these people, but they weren’t meant to be ours.
Like it just, it wasn’t meant to be, and I can see that so clearly now.
And flash forward, and like I, some of these people I’ve kept up with, some of them I’ve not, and that’s normal, I think.
But the people I’ve kept up with are like so much happier and so much better, and that’s how it freaking should be.
I look at like personal relationships.
I broke up with a major player in my personal life, December 21st, 2023, right before Christmas.
And that alone was a massive weight off my shoulders, and to be clear, it was not a popular decision.
There weren’t a lot of people who were like, do it, Britt, that’s gonna be great for you.
It actually caused a lot of strife.
People were not happy with me for making that decision at all.
And a lot of people kind of in that moment, not kind of, I’m already softening the blow.
A lot of people in that moment painted me out to be the bad guy.
Like, oh my gosh, you’re just so inflexible, and you need to be more empathetic to somebody who had hurt me for so long, as if there was supposed to be an endless pool of empathy until the end of all time, and just suck it up.
And once I decided that was not for me anymore, I became the bad guy.
And it was so interesting because, flash forward, so it’s been a year and a half, no, not a year and a half, but a year and a half since all that happened.
And anybody, anybody who is a mutual connection between me and this person is more than welcome to hang out with them.
I don’t care if they do.
I don’t feel like you have to choose me or them.
I seriously don’t.
I don’t care if you want to be in that person’s life, go for it.
That’s totally fine.
It’s just not for me.
That person can come to my house.
It’s like really okay, actually, like very healthy boundaries with it, I think.
I’m just not gonna spend my time and energy there because it wasn’t good for me.
And what I realized is now nobody spends time with that person.
And the clarity I got in that is I was the doormat in the relationship, the punching bag, the easy person to blame, and also the glue.
I was the buffer.
I was the doer.
I was the fixer.
And then I was also the enabler.
And I created my own toxicity in that.
And I was still the bad guy when the relationship fell apart, and I just don’t care.
I don’t care.
And it’s still to this day one of the better decisions I’ve ever made in my life.
And the reason why I share that is sometimes we have to make those very difficult decisions, even when they’re unpopular, to protect our peace.
And the thing that I realized too is historically, historically, I have been the person who’s like, that person’s dead to me, and if you talk to them, you’re dead to me too.
It was like, you choose both sides.
If you connect with that person, I won’t connect with you.
Totally petty and immature.
With this person, I was like, oh no, if you like that person, that’s totally fine.
This is just not for me.
So don’t expect me to come around because I’m not coming.
And feel free to do that.
It’s okay for you to have one relationship with somebody and for somebody else not to choose it.
That was one of the real breakthroughs I have, and it’s given me, it’s taken away all the guilt because historically, if I did the thing where I was like, if you choose them, you don’t choose me.
Well, now I’m getting in the way of this other person’s relationships, and who am I to do that?
Versus now, everyone has freedom of choice, and it’s just been a real gift and a blessing.
And I want you to think about that in the salon dynamics, too.
Like often when there’s like clicks or groups, it’s very much like if you talk to Sandy, don’t talk to me again.
Who gives a rip?
Like everybody should be able to connect in the way that they want.
And if someone does you dirty, don’t feel like you need to sustain.
Like really protect your energy and your peace.
That alone has been a real blessing.
So let’s move forward to education and inspiration.
Because I think this will be a little bit interesting and maybe a little unexpected.
So when I look back over those years, crazy, it was three years.
I just can’t believe that such a long time.
I was never uninspired.
I never felt uninspired.
I always felt like I still had a lot of inspiration and juices were flowing.
I was still very creative and productive and all that kind of stuff.
What I wasn’t was very innovative.
And I do think my secret sauce is my innovation.
Like I was still, I could still see patterns.
I could still project to the future.
I still always knew where the industry was headed.
Those things were there.
But as far as the like innovative strategies of like, holy shit, I can’t believe she saw that.
I just didn’t have it and I didn’t know why.
Now I know why.
And now it’s back.
And I can’t ever imagine losing it again, but I was being very reactionary because I didn’t have that same spark.
So through the Thriving Stylist 60, I was connecting with longtime thrivers.
I was having deeper conversations and deeper personal conversations, professional conversations, like all the things.
I also chose to unfollow a lot of educators and influencers, like a lot.
Some of them were people I had been in masterminds with before.
Some of them were people I had considered friends before.
Some of them were big name influencers who had gotten popular in recent years.
And for a lot of different reasons, in some of the relationships, I realized I was being used instead of being seen as useful, and I didn’t like that.
It was like when somebody needed something, they’d come around, and I would jump at the chance because it made me feel important.
Fuck that shit.
I don’t care about being important to somebody else anymore.
It’s either sincere or it’s not happening.
I don’t use people.
So I don’t want that.
And so it just gave me this realization of what I’m okay with and what I’m not.
I really changed the way I look at education.
I think because of that reality of I don’t want artificial relationships.
It’s either real or it’s nothing for me.
And I didn’t understand what was real.
That was the trip, is that when I was in these superficial relationships or these business relationships that were extremely vapid, and now I can see it, it’s so clear.
But at the time, I was like, we’ve got each other.
If anything goes sideways, this person will jump in for me.
Like, we’re so there for each other.
And then as I look back, I’m like, oh my God, it was so much of it was bullshit.
And or I was taking advice from people who were not doing well, but I didn’t see it that way.
It was like all advice was good advice, and I liked this person, and they looked really fancy, and other people like this person, so maybe everything is fine.
And I just was so jaded and would get caught up.
And then I would pass it on to my team and be like, let’s follow this person’s whatever, and they’re doing cool stuff, and then it wouldn’t work, and I’d wonder why.
Well, flash forward, and their business isn’t doing great, but I didn’t know that at the time.
I was so caught up in keeping up that I totally lost my way.
And let that be a cautionary tale.
Like if you are caught in keeping up, it’ll drown you real quick.
So just be super careful.
So I’ve actually not been in a mastermind since 2022.
I don’t think I’ve been super public about that.
I, in 2023, had like a kind of like a collective gathering group, and that was good.
It really wasn’t a mastermind.
I can’t call it that.
It was super informal.
That was fine.
2024 is the year I did one-off events.
I did a ton of digital education from like educators that I hadn’t connected with in a while.
It was almost like going back home.
Like I went back to educators that I connected with years ago, who have now evolved and changed and are teaching new stuff.
And I made some bold asks.
So I love asking for things that are not on the menu.
So I’d reach out to people I admired and be like, hey, I know you don’t do this, but what would it take for you to do this for me?
And several of them said yes.
And that was really exciting to realize, like sometimes just asking for what you need from the right person who you know can get you there is the win.
And now I’m at a place where I’m digging into new education.
Some of the people have been asking me recently is like, what podcast do you listen to?
People would be very surprised.
I don’t listen to a lot of business podcasts only because I’ve come to learn a lot of it is bullshit.
And I know that sounds extremely harsh.
And I don’t want this to come across negative because I don’t think it needs to.
There are really smart people out there.
And a lot of the people like, nobody read into this too much.
Like the people you have seen me networking with, like the people you’ve seen me post pictures of, like me and them standing together on Instagram, I’m still close with those people.
I’m talking about different people.
But I was caught up in following people who were trendy or exploding.
And then I started to learn a lot about how many people are just fronting and aren’t actually successful and are trying to heavy lift their way to success.
And I was following the advice of these people.
And I realized how caught up I had become.
So instead of following big influencers and trying to keep up with the trends or whatever, I’m having a lot more really powerful conversations with the now very small circle of fellow industry, not even industry, fellow digital education people that I actually trust.
The ones that I know are real, real.
The ones that I’ve had very candid conversations with and have opened up to and I trust them.
That’s it.
It’s like a circle of four.
There’s just, I’m not going to get much wider than that at this point.
I’m learning by doing again, which is learning by doing is what got me from 2015 to 2021.
And why I ever stopped doing that, I will never know because I thought that if I followed these big, huge influencers, they take me to the finish line.
And that was so stupid, so stupid.
And so I’m back to grinding and doing and testing and working and trying.
And you should do the same.
Like get in there and grind and do it.
Listen to people’s suggestions, but until you test it in your own business, you have no idea if it will work for you or not.
So get in there and do it.
I recalibrated what I need now.
And so I’m not chasing things I want for the future.
I’m really taking programs and classes on the problems in my business today.
And the other thing is I was really caught up in trying to gain status.
I think that I kind of glazed over that a few minutes ago.
And I thought, like, if I achieve this, if I speak at this event, if I do this certain thing, then some magic portal will unlock and something will happen.
There is no portal, is what I learned.
Like, it doesn’t work that way.
So I’m not chasing anything except the life I was looking to build when I started Thriver Society, which was my mission, which is to empower 1 million hairstylists to achieve six figures and beyond so that they can live the beautiful, wealthy lives they’ve always been craving.
I still believe that’s possible, and that’s all that matters.
That and creating balance with the three people in my family, my husband and my kids.
That’s it.
Anything else is erroneous again.
And I had really lost my way on that for three years, and the clarity is just so clear now.
Going to health, I still drink a gallon of water a day.
I started that in July.
Now I crave it.
Now I have to.
I start my day drinking probably two cups before I drink coffee or anything else.
I chug and I have to.
My body craves it now.
This is the best part.
I sleep better than I’ve slept in 20 years.
I thought I had insomnia.
I was to the place where I thought I should probably get a prescription sleep aid.
There was not enough melatonin in the world, not enough THC that could knock me out.
I tried everything and it wouldn’t work.
What I realized is now that I’m not stressed and now that I’m not struggling with anxiety or self-doubt or worrying what people thought about me.
Like, man, was I so good at telling people, don’t worry about what anybody else thinks.
Meanwhile, I was so worried about what everybody else was thinking, but I didn’t realize it.
It was so weird.
And now it’s so clear.
Like, were you trying to be a character?
What were you doing out there?
Like, so silly.
Like, it’s ridiculous now.
I’ve let all that go.
I sleep like a baby.
I will say I have a little bit of help.
I use something called Beam, B-A-M.
I’m not an affiliate for them.
I don’t have a code to share.
It is like a very natural powder sleep aid.
I pour it into oat milk at night, and I whisk it up, and I drink it like a late night hot chocolate, and within 30 minutes, I’m asleep, and I could sleep 10 hours.
Like, I have to have an alarm.
I used to be somebody who would wake up at 5 a.m.
without even trying.
I need an alarm because my body is so rested, and I don’t feel groggy.
I feel great.
Like, it’s just been a game changer for me.
I very rarely consume alcohol.
I’ve never been a big drinker, but now less than ever.
I walk 15 miles a week, which doesn’t sound like much.
It’s a huge change for me, and I have more meaningful relationships.
Like, I’m just not afraid to have bigger conversations, if you can’t tell by this podcast episode.
I like being open, and I like having real talk, and it’s just more fulfilling, and I’m really enjoying it, and it’s opening doors to better friendships.
When it comes to business, I am more productive now than ever, and the quality of what I’m creating, I did not even know it was possible for me.
I truly always thought like I created at a really high level.
I can now see so clearly the flaws in everything I’ve done in the past, and how I was networking, connecting with people whose bars were low, like lower than my personal standard.
And rather than opening myself up to see my own business blind spots and improve, I had just convinced myself that all was well, and this was my best, and it was good.
And by the way, I’ve never produced something that didn’t give a good result.
So as a good result, so great.
Watch out, because what I’m producing now and moving forward is not good results.
It’s holy shit.
Where’s this been all of our lives?
And I’m really because I’m in this new place in space, it’s like so much more as possible, which is so exciting.
You’ll notice if you start watching my videos, I got rid of my office.
I had this office.
Oh my gosh, as I’m talking this through, I rented an office in 2021.
Who would have thought?
I rented an office in 2021.
And I wrapped up my lease on it in December of 2024.
It wasn’t good for me.
The energy was not good at all.
I would walk in there.
I remember calling my husband a couple of times.
I was like, I’m freaking out.
I would walk in there and the energy was so bad.
By the way, it was beautiful.
Like there’s nothing wrong with it.
It wasn’t unsafe.
It was huge.
It was 1500 square feet decorated beautifully.
Like everything was great.
I hated it.
I hated being there.
And I would tell myself, like, I love it.
It’s my happy place.
Lies.
Not true at all.
It was costing me $65,000 a year and made me completely unhappy.
So we got rid of that.
I’m listening and paying attention and trying new things.
One of the things I think I’ve always been good at is listening.
This girl is ears wide open.
I’m just really listening.
I’m a big fat sponge.
I am taking it all in yet again.
So to bring it all home, I finally feel realigned.
And in the past few years, people had told me like, you’ve changed.
And I remember being like, thank you.
People should change.
Like people should evolve.
By the way, I don’t want to be the person.
I was at 29 years old when I started Thrivers Society.
Don’t take me back to 29.
I’m not interested, but I think I had changed at my core in a way that I didn’t realize.
And I had created this armor and was almost playing a character.
I had put on a suit that I didn’t know I was wearing.
I don’t know how else to explain it.
And maybe it was a survival suit.
I don’t think I chose it.
I think it chose me.
And I think that a lot of what I endured was meant to be my journey because I have learned so much.
I don’t regret any of it.
Not a moment.
But when I look at where I’m at now, my OG Thrivers will appreciate this.
I’m manifesting quarters again.
I manifested my first quarter at my first mastermind back in 2016.
And for years, I would manifest, like, I don’t know, $400 in quarters a year.
Like, ridiculous.
I have jars of quarters in my laundry room, jars.
I look like a quarter hoarder.
It’s crazy.
And I wasn’t.
And I knew that I wasn’t.
But I was like, oh, maybe I’m supposed to be manifesting something else.
Maybe something else is going to emerge.
Spoiler alert.
It didn’t.
It was supposed to be quarters.
And now they’re all over the place.
Like, I’m finding them everywhere.
Like, in my shoes, like wild places.
Things are just working out.
I can’t even describe it.
Like, we’ll start something.
I’m like, it’s fine.
It’ll work out.
And then it does.
There’s no uphill battle.
Everything just feels easy.
Money is flowing easily.
Energy is flowing easily.
Tech is flowing easily.
Team is flowing easily.
That’s what’s been interesting too, is we have a smaller team.
We’re able to do more work in less time.
Mike, tell me how that is happening.
But it’s because we’re aligned.
And everybody wants to be here and likes what they’re doing and loves the mission and is happy.
And it’s just like, it’s how it’s meant to be.
I do things when they feel good.
I hit my deadlines.
If something doesn’t work out, I’m OK letting it go.
And I like I love myself again in a way that I don’t think I had in a really long time.
And it just feels great.
And so for some of you who are new to my business coaching, my podcast, you’re like, that was a lot.
And I know this is for me, and that’s totally fair.
But for those of you who have been on the ride and maybe you were even somebody who was like, she’s changed and you didn’t know what to make of it.
I didn’t know what to make of it either.
And, you know, everybody will evolve forward.
I’m not going to be the person I was in 2020, and I shouldn’t be.
But I really have gotten back in touch with the sincerest form of myself again.
I’m happy again.
I’m very aligned.
I know what I’m doing and how to do it.
I’m unbothered.
I just, I can’t wait to serve you in the way I know I’m supposed to.
So with that, so much love, happy business building, and I’ll see you on the next one.
